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16 October 2024

Aging Gracefully: Enjoying Life’s Journey

29 June 2024

Mindfulness or Seeing the Big Picture

At a faculty dinner once, a tablemate from the Education Department spoke about a high school student in one of her student-teacher’s classes. This student never spoke in class, never raised his hand in response to the teacher’s questions, and, when asked a direct question, would look down and not respond. Unsure of how to advise this student-teacher to reach this student, she asked the table for recommendations.

 

Others proffered various suggestions, which they then discussed. I eventually asked if the student was Native American, and with a somewhat surprised look, my colleague acknowledged that he was. I then suggested that the situation she described was more likely cultural in nature and had little to do with the student’s mental health or intellectual acumen but rather the result of adherence to traditional Native American values, especially if raised on the reservation, which he was. This underlines the crucial role of cultural sensitivity in understanding and addressing student behavior. 


 

This is, however, not an essay intent on addressing cultural sensitivity. Rather, it focuses on the importance of mindfulness and the problems associated with absolute thinking. In the abovementioned case, the educator’s understanding of the “role of student” was steeped in a Western definition of “engaged student.” This understanding of student involvement included raising hands in response to questions and responding when called on in class. This definition of “student” precluded considering the student in question’s situation as anything other than indicative of a problem that troubled students have and that teachers need to solve. By being mindful of cultural differences and individual student experiences, educators can avoid such absolute thinking and better understand their students. 

 

The teacher’s rigid or “absolute” definition of “functional student,” which included ALL students, resulted in a mindless reaction to this situation rather than viewing it as potentially unique to this individual student. In other words, the teacher’s unconditional understanding of the construct “student” prevented the teacher from considering that the “problem” might be the teacher’s approach to teaching rather than the student’s approach to learning. Educators must consider each student’s unique experiences and backgrounds, which can significantly impact their learning and behavior. This only happens when remaining open to the possibility that multiple explanations for an observed phenomenon may exist.

 

When we think we know and understand a situation, we attend to the minimal number of cues necessary to complete a task or, in this situation, reach a conclusion. The result is never exploring additional cues or information that could suggest an alternate explanation for the encountered phenomenon. This is, in short, a definition of mindlessness. Educators should be cautious of such mindless approaches as they can lead to overlooking important cues and information that could provide a deeper understanding of their students. This highlights the need for caution and thoroughness in problem-solving, particularly in educational and authoritative settings.

 

The difference between “absolute thinking” and “conditional thinking” is that absolute thinking is rooted in the belief that “this is the way,” the undisputed fact. Believing this automatically terminates further consideration of other or alternative explanations or solutions. Like a detective who “knows” John Jones is guilty and then looks exclusively for evidence to support that hypothesis, never considering that there could be or are other suspects, the absolute thinker defaults to a mindless consideration of the evidence. Mindfulness, on the other hand, necessitates “conditional thinking.” In conditional thinking, I remain open to the metaphorical fact that there may be more ways to get from Philadelphia to New York City than via I-95 and that circumstances or context could warrant pursuing a different course of action.

 

Ensuring “conditional” thinking may be as simple as how we phrase our questions or describe a situation or object. For example, notice the difference in what comes to mind when presented with these two statements: A baseball bat is the weapon, and A baseball bat could be the weapon. In the first, there is no doubt, at least in the speaker’s mind, whereas in the second, perhaps it is, but then again, perhaps something else is the weapon. This illustrates how mindfulness and conditional thinking can open a range of possibilities, fostering a more open-minded and flexible approach. 

 

Absolute statements leave no room for question; there is no room for exploring “what if…” Conditional statements, on the other hand, invite speculation; they expand the boundaries of possibility. Such differentiation becomes important when considering how individuals in positions of real or presumed authority deliver information.

 

Assume you are speaking with a physician – or therapist, lawyer, detective, or another perceived as in authority. You’re told that all indications are this is cancer – or ‘depression,’ ‘liable,’ ‘proof.’  First, what are you experiencing emotionally, and second, in what role have you cast yourself that triggers that emotional reaction? Likely, you are emotionally upset and see yourself as a “patient” or “client/patient” or “defendant” or “suspect,” mindlessly considering that role as you act according to your absolute understanding of how one in that role should act. 

 

What if that physician, therapist, lawyer, or detective said, All indications suggest this might be cancer/depression/liable/proof; might you feel more hopeful if not empowered to explore how best to act on rather than react to the statement? And because this person in a position of authority presented a conditional statement, might you be more inclined to see yourself as a mindful individual in a position to do something in response to the information rather than mindlessly submitting to a constraining role held as absolute fact?

 

We live in a time and culture enamored of absolutes. We seek “the answer,” and we follow it mindlessly once we believe we have found it. My grandfather used to say that we know what we have learned and learned what we’re taught, but this is not all there is to know. Mindfulness involves remaining open to the idea that things are not always how they appear.

04 June 2024

How Cognitive Bias Can Lead to Irrational Decisions


Cognitive bias refers to systematic errors in our thinking that affect how we perceive and interpret information and make decisions based on that information. While not intentional or malicious, these biases can significantly impact our decision-making process. They result from the limitations and shortcuts of our cognitive system, which tries to process a vast amount of information efficiently and quickly. However, cognitive biases can also have negative consequences, especially when they lead to irrational decisions against our best interests, goals, or values.

Some Common Cognitive Biases That Affect Our Decisions

Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek, interpret, and remember information that confirms our existing beliefs or hypotheses while ignoring or dismissing information that contradicts them. It can make us overconfident and resistant to changing our opinions even when faced with new evidence. For example, confirmation bias can lead us only to visit news sources that align with our political views and dismiss any opposing arguments as biased or false.

An availability heuristic is the tendency to judge the likelihood or frequency of an event based on how easily we can recall examples from our memory. This heuristic can cause us to overestimate the probability of rare or sensational events and underestimate the likelihood of ordinary or mundane events. For example, it can lead us to fear flying more than driving, even though flying is statistically much safer than driving.

The framing effect is a bias that relates to the influence resulting from the presentation of information rather than from the information itself. The framing effect can make us react differently to the same information depending on the wording or staging of the information, the emphasis placed on specific aspects of the information, or the presentation’s context. For example, preferring our surgeon to announce the planned procedure as “90% effective” rather than 10% ineffective, or the framing effect can lead us to choose a product labeled as "90% fat-free" over one labeled as "10% fat," even though they are essentially the same.

Sunk cost fallacy: This is the tendency to continue investing in a project, course of action, or relationship that has already cost us a significant amount of time, money, or effort, even when it is not worth it. The sunk cost fallacy can make us reluctant to cut our losses and move on because we feel that we have already invested too much to give up. For example, the sunk cost fallacy can lead us to keep watching a boring movie until the end because we have already paid for the ticket.

Related to the sunk cost fallacy is "loss aversion." This bias relates to our tendency to emphasize the chance of sustaining a loss more than the potential to realize a gain. For example, you invest $100 in a stock you believe will result in significant growth, but it steadily declines in value over several months. Because it now sells for less than you paid, you are averse to selling even though the stock will likely decline further. Put another way, investing the funds realized by selling the underperforming stock in a CD with a guaranteed rate of return is an unattractive alternative to continuing to hold the declining stock. Two mundane examples include sitting through a boring or offensive film simply because you paid for the ticket or eating an unappetizing meal because you paid for it.

Hindsight bias is the tendency to see events, even random ones, as more predictable than they are. Some examples of hindsight bias include insisting that you knew who was going to win a football game once the event was over (Monday morning quarterbacking), believing that you knew all along that one political candidate was going to win an election, or saying that you knew you weren't going to win after losing a coin flip with a friend.

Self-serving bias is the tendency to attribute positive outcomes to our abilities and efforts while attributing adverse consequences to external factors or bad luck. Self-serving bias can cause us to overestimate our skills and achievements (the Dunning-Kruger effect) and underestimate our flaws and mistakes. For example, it can lead us to take credit for a successful project at work but blame our co-workers for one that fails.

The bandwagon effect is the tendency to conform to the opinions and behaviors of others, especially when perceiving them as popular or the majority views. The bandwagon effect can make us adopt beliefs or actions that we might not otherwise agree with or do because we want to fit in or avoid social rejection. For example, the bandwagon effect can lead us to vote for candidates because most of our friends or family support them.

 

How to Overcome Cognitive Biases and Make Better Decisions


Although cognitive biases are hard to eliminate because of their being ingrained in our mental system, there are steps we can take to reduce their influence and improve our decision-making:

Be aware of your biases: The first step is to recognize that you are not immune to cognitive biases, which can affect your thinking and behavior in various situations. You can use online resources such as https://effectiviology.com/cognitive-biases/ to learn more about cognitive biases and how they work.

Seek diverse and reliable sources of information: The second step is to broaden your perspective and expose yourself to different viewpoints and credible and trustworthy sources of information. You can use online tools such as https://mediabiasfactcheck.com/ to check the bias and accuracy of various news outlets and websites.

Challenge your assumptions and beliefs: The third step is to question your assumptions and beliefs and test them against evidence and logic. You can use online platforms such as https://www.kialo.com/ to engage in constructive debates with others on various topics and issues.

Consider alternative options and scenarios: The fourth step is to avoid jumping to conclusions based on limited or biased information. Instead, consider other options and scenarios that could explain or influence the situation. You can use online techniques such as https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Thinking_Hats to adopt different perspectives and modes of thinking.

Seek feedback and advice from others: The fifth step is to seek input and advice from others who are knowledgeable, experienced, or impartial about the decision you are facing.

Conclusion

Cognitive bias is a natural phenomenon that affects how we think and make decisions. However, cognitive bias can also lead us to make irrational decisions that are not in our best interest. By being aware of our biases, seeking diverse and reliable sources of information, challenging our assumptions and beliefs, considering alternative options and scenarios, and seeking feedback and advice from others, we can overcome cognitive biases and make better decisions.

14 April 2024

Bloom Where You’re Planted


Along with April Fool’s Day, and Tax Day, few of us think of April without recalling the adage, that April showers bring May flowers. We relate to this saying when we experience April’s rain and then enjoy the beauty of May. But there is a deeper, more significant meaning to this traditional homage to spring…that is, no problem exists without its gift inside.

No matter where we are in our life's path, obstacles always have the potential to shake our self-assurance or, even worse, damage our self-worth. For individuals with duties such as caregiving, educating, managing, or any position that involves assisting people facing difficulties in the modern world, uncertainty about their impact is a common concern. Even for seasoned professionals, the key is to avoid allowing a preoccupation with issues to diminish the significance of showing empathy towards those who are going through them. 

My grandfather always used to emphasize the importance of continuous learning and growth. He would say that while we may know what we have been taught, there will always be more to learn and discover. As a young adolescent, I may not have fully grasped the depth of Pop’s words, but they have resonated with me throughout my entire professional journey. Even with five decades in my field, I never reached a point where I felt I had mastered all there was to know in my field let alone life. This realization pushed me to strive for excellence each day, knowing that there is always room for improvement. When faced with challenges beyond my capabilities, those moments resulted in self-doubt and more than once, flirting with burnout.

 

Upon reflecting on my grandfather’s wisdom, I came to realize that I had overlooked the most important piece of his advice. Although I may not have been as skilled on a given day as I would eventually become, I was still better than I was the day before. You see, even though one's knowledge and experience may have limitations at any given point in time, as Theodore Roosevelt once said, one must make the most of what they have and employ it where they are. Wisdom seems to develop when we acknowledge the boundaries of our knowledge. It is wisdom that urges us to seek assistance when confronting our limitations. In short, knowledge is knowing a lot of facts and wisdom is knowing which facts matter.

 

Unfortunately, Americans often balk at seeking assistance, viewing it as a sign of weakness and ignorance or a lack of ability. Paradoxically, it is the humility displayed in asking for help that paves the way for personal growth and development, leading to a brighter future. Thankfully, help exists in many forms. Formal education, finding a mentor, gaining insights from a talented supervisor, or simply engaging in conversations with others who faced similar challenges. One of the most effective ways to learn, as Albert Bandura proposed decades ago, is through observational learning. By observing and learning from experienced individuals one not only gains knowledge but also identifies potential mentors.

 

There are many ways one can learn from others and emulate their behavior…from reading biographies and autobiographies to watching documentary films, “bio-pics,” and YouTube clips to simply watching those who have mastered a skill you wish to add to your repertoire, or listening to them as they share their stories. YouTube videos are particularly useful in this regard.

 

Such “observational” learning helps us realize that what we wish we could do, can be done. Once acknowledged, the next step is an act of humility that allows me to recognize that these others have done what I have been unable to do, meaning, indeed, “This skill is doable.” This humbling admission is only possible when we let go of the belief that our previous shortcomings were evidence of being less than perfect and repurpose them as indications of a need for more work on a skill yet to be mastered. Remember, thoughts are not facts; if we want to grow personally, we need to change the way we think about ourselves as a person.

 

Upon shifting our perspective to view our shortcomings as indicators of necessary steps rather than personal flaws, we became open to learning. Through consistent action, we hone the skills that lead to the confidence and transformation we desire - essentially, practice makes perfect. Embracing the process of learning from others and applying that knowledge not only boosts confidence but also facilitates personal growth. This evolution may eventually pave the way to becoming more skillful and someone that others aspire to emulate as they journey toward their personal growth. To illustrate this point, an allegory shared by a supervisor years ago:

 

The circus’s arrival in town each spring was heralded by its parade down Main Street, the elephants traveling single file, “trunks on tails, trunks on tails.” This one year there was a baby elephant just recently born and therefore the last elephant in the parade as it left the train yard and proceeded down Main Street to the circus grounds, firmly holding its mother’s tail. Well, as the years passed and the circus continued to visit the town, new baby elephants joined the circus and the little elephant no longer found itself the last in the procession. As is the circle of life, the pachyderm’s mother eventually passed away, leaving our protagonist without a tail to grasp with its trunk and therefore no one to follow. In bewilderment, as she turned to glance behind her in hopes of finding a new leader to follow, she saw a long line of elephants following her…trunks on tails, trunks on tails; you see, she had become the lead elephant.

 

So, as you think about April’s showers and the flowers they bring in May, remember to consider that the “showers” of our lives can result in untold blooms in May, so never forget to "bloom where youre planted."

11 October 2023

Spirituality and Counseling: Not So Strange Bedfellows

Addressing spiritual issues when working with clients/patients often sparks passionate discussions among counseling professionals. The driving factor behind one’s position on this issue is frequently one’s definition of spirituality and how one interprets this question. The efficacy of addressing spiritual issues in counseling is also a key consideration, as it relates to the impact on the client/patient experience.

 

Through my involvement in this debate or as an observer over the years, I have learned that reframing spirituality as inclusive, beyond a theistic view of existence and religious dogma, can make it more acceptable as a legitimate objective of counseling services.


This issue came to the forefront when my students would submit essays in my addictions counseling classes. As I read their thoughts on spirituality’s place in the counseling relationship, I often pointed out that addressing it can bring additional depth to the delivery of services. It allows for a more comprehensive understanding of their situation, much like the difference between viewing a two-dimensional photograph of a location and being there, experiencing its three dimensions and all the sensory input that comes with it.

 

Addressing spiritual issues in counseling allows the practitioner to immerse clients in their own experience, providing more than insight and understanding in the process. It highlights the importance of clients empathizing with their own experiences, a skill that counseling professionals are well-versed in and can use to enhance their practice.

 

Considering spirituality as a state of connectedness to life, rather than mere participation, opens up a new dimension in counseling and enriches a client’s growth. Recognizing that one is an active participant in life, not just a passive observer, is akin to being a film director, not just a critic in a darkened theater. This perspective shift can be a powerful tool in helping clients overcome obstacles and grow personally.

 

Although practitioners of counseling and therapy appreciate the importance of helping clients grow by identifying and removing obstacles, there has been some hesitancy, even in Counselor Education, to pursue spiritual issues in counseling services. However, there is an increasing recognition of their importance.

 

My understanding of these issues, particularly from a worldview perspective, has evolved throughout my counseling career. As a younger student driven by a genuine desire to help, my comprehension of the human spirit and its significance in self-actualization was still in its infancy. As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to appreciate that while physical strength and endurance may diminish, wisdom and an understanding of the resilience and importance of the human spirit only deepen. 

 

In my personal experience, the individuals I have encountered, including clients, acquaintances, family members, mentors, and professors, have shown me the importance of a higher power in finding meaning in life and having faith in the inherent dignity of all creation. Whether the “H” in higher or the “P” in power requires capitalization is a legitimate discussion; however, the belief in a power greater than oneself seems to involve more than a simple leap of faith. Assessing a client’s sense of connectedness to this higher power by addressing spirituality is relevant in counseling.

 

So, to address the initial question of why spirituality is a “hot button” issue in counseling or therapy, it is a complex topic that involves personal beliefs, interpretations, and the potential impact on the client/patient experience.

20 July 2023

Understanding Negative Self-Talk

Negative thinking or as some call it, negative self-talk, “stinkin’ thinkin’,” is an all too common threat to individuals with a substance use disorder. Such thinking can seriously jeopardize the ability to change one’s substance using behavior by sabotaging change efforts with doubts about one’s ability to change and the resulting fear of failure. Counselors employing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) can teach clients whose negative self-talk presents roadblocks to change by helping them identify and then dismantle these barriers.

 

Albert Ellis, the founder of REBT, developed the “A-B-C” approach to counseling individuals whose negative self-talk impedes their movement towards desired change goals. In this approach to cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), the “A” stands for an activating event that precedes some consequence like a negative emotion or untoward behavior, the “C” in this model. The “B” represents the belief one holds and uses to interpret this activating event (A) that results in the consequence (C). The beauty of this model is its simplicity in pointing out that it is not the event that causes one’s emotional upset but what one tells oneself about the event that is the source of the distress.

In short, the model moves the focus of change from an external locus of control—something over which the client has no control—to an internal locus of control where the likelihood of change is something the client can affect. Once aware of the “A” interpreted by “B” results in “C” view of negative emotions, clients can then dispute, what Ellis referred to as “D” in his model, these irrational beliefs and replace them with new effective rational beliefs, “E” in his model. 

 

Teaching clients to challenge irrational beliefs can involve a variety of techniques and strategies. One of which is cognitive restructuring. This is a therapeutic technique used to challenge and change irrational or negative thought patterns. It involves identifying and examining the underlying beliefs and assumptions that contribute to these thoughts and replacing them with more rational and positive ones. This process often involves questioning the evidence and logic behind the irrational beliefs and finding alternative, more realistic interpretations of the situation when the belief fails to stand up to such scrutiny. It aims to help individuals develop healthier and more adaptive ways of thinking, which can lead to improved emotional well-being and behavior.

 

Let's say someone holds the belief that they are a failure because they made a mistake at work. They believe this causes them to feel anxious and depressed. Through cognitive restructuring, they can challenge and replace this irrational belief with a more rational and helpful one.

First, they would identify the negative thought or belief, which in this case is “I am a failure.” Then, they would examine the evidence for and against this belief. They might realize that they have had many successes in their career and that this one mistake does not define their entire worth or competence.

 

Next, they would generate alternative, more rational thoughts or beliefs. For example, they could replace “I am a failure” with “I made a mistake, but I am capable and have learned from it. I can improve and do better in the future.”

 

Finally, they would practice and reinforce these new thoughts or beliefs through repetition and positive self-talk. Over time, this cognitive restructuring process can help them develop a more balanced and realistic perspective, leading to improved emotional well-being.

 

Another useful technique for disputing irrational beliefs is the “downward arrow technique,” sometimes called the vertical interviewing technique. This technique is a cognitive therapy technique used to identify and challenge irrational beliefs. Although developed for use in Beck’s Cognitive Therapy, it is equally useful when employing Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). It involves asking a series of “why” questions to explore the underlying beliefs and assumptions that lead to negative thoughts or behaviors. Some thoughts on employing this technique include:

 

·      Identify a negative thought or behavior: Start by identifying a negative thought or behavior that you want to explore further. It could be something like “I'm not good enough” or “I always mess things up.”

·      Ask “why” questions: Once you have identified the negative thought or behavior, ask yourself why you believe it or why you engage in that behavior. For example, if your negative thought is “I'm not good enough,” you might ask yourself, “Why do I believe that?” or “Why do I think I'm not good enough?”

·      Explore underlying beliefs: As you ask yourself these “why” questions, pay attention to the underlying beliefs and assumptions that come up. Often deeply ingrained, these beliefs may not be immediately obvious. For example, you might uncover beliefs like “I have to be perfect to be worthy” or “I'm not lovable unless I achieve certain things.”

·      Challenge the beliefs: Once you have identified the underlying beliefs, challenge them by asking yourself if they are rational or if there is evidence to support them. For example, if your belief is “I have to be perfect to be worthy,” ask yourself if that belief is realistic or if there are examples in your life where you have felt worthy despite not being perfect.

·      NOTE: Uncover or “exposing” underlying or “core beliefs” that give rise to negative self-talk may require several successive questions such as: “and if this is true, what does that mean?” or “and your proof of this is?” Such questions often generate yet additional beliefs to which additional “why” questions or others as just cited can ultimately result in identifying one or two “core beliefs.” These core beliefs, like those noted in the previous bullet, tend to generate all the negative self-talk reported by clients. Identifying and then effectively disputing them can result in significant improvements for your client.

·      Replace with rational beliefs: Finally, replace the irrational beliefs with more rational and positive ones. For example, if your belief is “I have to be perfect to be worthy,” you could replace it with “I am worthy just as I am, flaws and all” or, “I may not be perfect but when I am not, I learn from my mistakes.”

 

Remember, the downward arrow technique is a tool to help you identify and challenge irrational beliefs. It may take time and practice to fully uncover and dispute these beliefs, but it can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-improvement.

 

As noted above, there are many techniques and strategies used by cognitively oriented practitioners when assisting clients. Many of these are particularly useful when working with individuals with a substance use disorder. For mor on cognitive techniques and resources, visit https://positivepsychology.com/cbt-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-techniques-worksheets/